How I finally Fell In Love With Jeans ( & Body Image Issues Every Woman Struggles With)
Many of you may not know this about me but I use to HATE jeans. Literally with a loathing passion (or pants for that matter). To be quite honest, up until I moved to the PNW I rarely wore them. So much that I think I only owned maybe four pairs of jeans. I know that’s shocking to some of you but I’m more of a dress and booties kind of gal. So in this week’s series of real talk I’m going to be talking about body image, my relationship with jeans and sizing overall.
Let me start by saying, I think ALL women struggle with body image issues. We’re constantly comparing ourselves to other women, models, celebrities, etc. It doesn’t matter what size you are, you ALWAYS feel inadequate, that’s just the truth. My whole life I’ve been really petite, but that never stopped my mind from believing that I still didn’t look “good enough”. This constant battle of struggling for perfection is a self-fulfilling prophecy. At the end of the day, it’s never “enough”. At least for me, that’s how it’s always been.
I look at the number on the scale and it could say 90 or 120 and to me I always feel like I look the same. Strange isn’t it? When I talk to other friends who didn’t struggle with an eating disorder they still had some type of body image issue. So I KNOW it’s not just me. Let me clear to state for the record that those are two very different things. Having an ED is not something to take lightly, I have just chosen to make light of it given the fact that it’s something I’ve always struggled with.
To be frank, I’m probably the healthiest I’ve ever been. And even through the battle of telling my mind that it’s not about the number, I still chose to eat and TRY extremely hard to be healthy. There are days where I don’t think about it. If you’re asking at this point, how it all is this related to wearing jeans, oh but it is! It’s actually the whole story of why I dress the way I do. Why I wear frumpy clothes (it’s a habit for hiding what’s underneath), why I wear dresses ( I feel more comfortable and beautiful in dresses) and why I hate fitted clothes ( I feel like it accents everything that I don’t want to accent).
So there you have it. Years of me avoiding jeans because frankly it always accents THE WRONG part of my body. No matter how petite I am, how healthy I eat, how much I exercise I CANNOT for the life of me get rid of my hips. I’m Latina, it makes me part of who I am. For the last almost 10 years since they’ve decided to make their presence known, I have struggled with dressing myself in jeans. And here’s why, no jean is like any other. SERIOUSLY? So now not only do I have to try EVERY SINGLE jean on, but all the sizing is different. Good grief.
Brand to brand, sizing differs so much. It’s actually one of THEE most frustrating things for me. Oh and here’s the fun part, every woman is shaped differently so that varies too. I’m sure I’m not the only person who is “in-between sizes”. That’s right, I’m in the middle, whatever that means, making it even harder to shop for jeans. And guess what also else? My hips are a lot bigger than my waist so that whole bottom area is just really disproportionate.
I know what you’re thinking… Oh but you’re skinny. You’re not curvy. WRONG. SO SO WRONG. I’m tired of people looking at me and telling me that “I’m not curvy”. I think I would know since you know, I’ve lived in this body for 30 years. ALL women are shaped differently. Just because I’m not Scarlett Johansson curvy, doesn’t mean I’m not curvy. There’s just varying types of curvy.
So how DID I get to the point where I LOVE jeans? Well I like them a lot more than I use to. I first started wearing Frame Denim which are still one of my favorite pairs of jeans. I wear them ALL of the time. I continue searching for other brands that would fit just right. And so we have this outfit below. After searching for the right jean, I found Hudson jeans, which seem to fit me PERFECTLY, and I started feeling a lot more comfortable in my skin (or jeans for that matter).
So it may take a lifetime (or years) to find the right jeans that make you feel okay enough to wear denim, but it was worth it. I wear these everywhere I go, with pretty much everything I own when I’m trying to feel like a badass.
Scroll through for the cutest cafe denim outfit.
Photos taken by Meggan Graton
At the end of the day, we all have something we struggle with. For me it’s my hips, they always get the best of me. But just remember, we’re all weirdly going through life comparing ourselves to other people. When I look at these photos I realize in fact how tiny I am. How ridiculous it is to compare myself to someone else.
I’m not saying let yourself go and forget about being healthy. I am ALL about finding love in yourself and being confident. But be healthy! Treat yourself well. Nurture your body. Love it by feeding it, exercising it and making it stronger. At the end of the day, you do have the power to change your body, but you also have to change your mind. I hope this motivates you to be open about what you may be struggling with. We’re not perfect and it’s ridiculous to even think that you can ever be perfect.
I hope you enjoyed this week’s real talk. Do you struggle with sizing? Body image issues?
Let me know in the comments below.
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