Ruffles + Rooftops (& How Social Media Can Affect Your Mood)

Ruffles + Rooftops (& How Social Media Can Affect Your Mood)

Hello loves!

The month of January was a whirlwind. I found myself needing to take breaks in the craziness of my job, only to be faced with a new challenge that would forever change the course of my year. I’ve spent the last year brunching in style and trying all the places Eugene has to offer. Surprisingly I’ve almost been to most of the places around town. While there’s tons of content to still be created, I’m taking this post in a different direction.

The last few months I’ve been feeling like where am I going with Brunchinista. Having doubts in myself because of some “algorithm”, thinking about if my brand actually resonates with people. I was actually feeling pretty bummed, too bummed out. Seeing people who just started, doing so well with little to no effort and I thought, how is that fair? It’s not. And over and over I struggled with just completely not blogging anymore and giving up.

Little did I realize, comparing myself to others and obsessing about what I literally consider the numbers game had done so much to affect my mood. All I cared about was how a post was going to do. I was dedicating my life to work and blogging and everything else was sort of put aside. And by everything else I mean my own happiness! Slowly in realizing this I started making more time for the things that matter, connecting with friends and other people in my community. It wasn’t until I unfortunately lost my job that I found myself in the midst of utter chaos. I had been feeling crummy about all of these things that literally DON’T EVEN MATTER.

So someone else is doing better than me? Good for them! That should be the way we should ALL think of it. We all say it. We all say women empowerment blah blah blah. But ALL of us sit there comparing ourselves to that girl who “just started” and magically has 10K followers and then completely judging them or sharing with friends. If you are on here and you’re saying I’ve never done that you’re lying. Whether it was a blogger, friend or someone you don’t know we are ALL GUILTY. We all judge based off what we see. I thought long and hard about writing this post and what it would mean. I’m sure many of you feel this way and I wanted to just see where it would go.

Honestly everything in my life was amazing and still is. I was so busy worrying about numbers that I didn’t realize that I had nothing to be upset about. Or to be frank worrying about what other people were doing and how they were doing. It was so stupid! Now that I actually had something to be devastated about I was crushed. SOUL CRUSHINGLY crushed. I couldn’t believe it. I was completely blind sided and I felt like someone punched me in the stomach and I couldn’t shake it. I actually came home with my boyfriend waiting at the door opening his arms and I said I want to puke. Why is this happening? I felt this way for a good…24 hours? And in that time I posted a video on my stories EXTREMELY SAD, not thinking about how my followers would react. I woke up to an outpour of comments, messages, texts and calls because I didn’t say exactly what had happen but I said I was devastated and sad and needed some time. Little did I know how people would respond to it.

All I could say is that in that moment I realized I had affected and influenced people so much that they felt the need to check up on me and let me know things were going to be okay. I had people sending me inspirational quotes, telling me how talented I am and what a boss babe I am, people telling me their stories of what they did when they got let go from a job or when they lost something else just as sad. It was INSANE. I was WOWED every second of yesterday and I thought to myself, I HAVE to write about this!

So here I am blissfully just a couple of days ago sitting on a rooftop, drinking some wine in my cute ruffled top, enjoying the sunset with no clue of knowing that my life would fall apart in the next couple of days.

But I have to tell you, I have never felt happier. Sure losing a job sucks but I feel so damn motivated. I realized how stupid it was to worry about all these small little minute things. I’ve never felt more in love with life and that sounds crazy. Am I going to cry as I slowly re-enter applying for jobs (PS I’ve applied to like 30 jobs in the last day). If there’s anything that drives me is my own motivation. I say this now and I will say it for the rest of my life. But that’s not the point. And to the man who’s been the biggest support through this all. You’re the real MVP. I seriously couldn’t ask for a better partner, friends and love to have in my life. If anything he’s the one that made me realize, the only thing that matters is that everything will be okay and he will be by my side every step of the way.

On that note, can we TALK about how amazing this outfit is? LOL. Sorry can’t be sappy forever. This ruffle sweater is from a local boutique called Bea + Tris. Check her out. She’s a mix of cute affordable anthropology inspired clothing that’s totally boho-chic.

 

{Coral Springs Sweater, Boyfriend Jeans, Booties, Leather Jacket}

 

I hope you enjoyed the realness of this blog post. It was a very unexpected thing for me to express myself on social and on here. This isn’t about brunch or entirely the outfit. I think sometimes we need life to smack us in the face to realize how good we have it. Despite the fact that I have to start over, I’m excited for what that means for me and my career. I can reinvent myself however I please. And I have all of you to thank for all of the love and support.

So thank you to everyone who called, texted, messaged and may comment in this post. Remember you’re not alone. We all get sad and that’s okay. If you ever need to chat and are feeling down, DM me and let’s talk it through. I’ve heard from my besties that I can be truly inspirational.

For now, I’m signing off. What motivates you?

Let me know in the comments below.

xxo

Jacqueline



29 thoughts on “Ruffles + Rooftops (& How Social Media Can Affect Your Mood)”

  • Oh babe, I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your job! That totally sucks but I truly believe that something better is in store for you. When things like this happen other, better things come along. What you say and put out there does matter and you have connected with people and they are here for you. We are all here to support! I think it’s wonderful you wrote this post as many of us feel the same way. It’s been hard to grow and connect in a saturated market but even if we touch one person, to me that’s what matters. I know you will find the right job for you soon or find other opportunities that you wouldn’t have had staying in the same job. Sending you lots of love and hugs! Xoxo, Christine

    http://dailykongfidence.com/brand-revival/

  • Thank you for sharing. I can’t even imagine what you must have gone through the day you lost your job. I’m sure there is something better out there for you. What you shared about IG is so true. We all have those days and those thoughts. I like how real you were with this post.

  • Sorry to hear that you lost your job. But you know what, something better for you is going to happen. You are so brave and honest to open your thoughts and feeling to us during your lowest moment in life. Kudos to your courage! For someone who gains over 10k overnight you don’t need to envy her. She gains these followers through paid giveaway. We are all here to work hard and create the best content we can and this is all matters.

    Xx

    Ting
    http://www.tingmystyle.com

  • Aw babe!
    I am so sorry that you lost your job.
    But I am sure something better is comming your way!
    I love your blog and your personality! You create amazing content for your followers!
    Keep up the good work and keep being yourself!
    The compatition out there is hard, but there is only one of you!
    and you are amazing!

    Thank you for sharing this personal post with us!
    Xo
    Britta

  • Hey Darling,
    How are you?
    This is the Cutest Ruffled Top Ever Darling:)
    Love the Color and the Denim And Boots Matching:)
    Perfect Combination:)
    Love, Kisses
    Happy Week
    Karina

  • I’m so sorry about your job! But I believe when one door closes, another one opens. And you have a great support network who really cares about you. Don’t ever forget that! You seem really dedicated and motivated. 30 applications? That’s dedication to me and who wouldn’t want to hire someone with that fervor? I know that good things will come your way. You have totally inspired me to do better too!

  • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience in this and most of all being so real about it. It must have been so hard to go through the emotions of the job loss and the frustrations of blogging and instagram. You have inspired me and many others I’m sure with what you are going through. I truly think things happen for a reason and that there’s something bigger and better in store for you!

    • I’m glad I’ve inspired you! I think it’s good to be honest with your audience! It shows them that you are also human and allows them to connect with you on a different level! Thank you for your kind words.

  • How I understand you , I lost my job some years ago and I doesn’t searched other.
    I’m full time mother and when I’m had some time for me I swim , run and blogging.
    My life is complete. The best is yet to come. I’m must focusing on my family first. I think you’re very young and maybe you need something else. You have a future and you can motivate yourself how you want . Now is better to relax and enjoy your life sweetie .
    Xx
    Eva
    http://www.themermaidfashion.com

  • This post really resonates with me! I love how real this post is! I have been sooo focused on my Instagram Reach lately, that it is driving me insane! I am always worrying what I am going to post and whether or not my followers will like it, and trying to figure out what the best time to post is! I really miss the old Instagram. It was so much easier! I love the support you received from your followers! The best part of Instagram is the community!

    Best wishes on your job hunt!

    XO
    Tandya
    http://www.simplytandya.com

  • Heya Jacq,
    Sorry to hear about your job loss. It really isn’t easy to deal with it along with the other stresses of life. You’re a capable lady and I have confidence in you that you will be able to find something else that suits you and that you love. Take a short break to relax and find your way.
    Xo,
    Everest

  • Hey girl! Everything in life happens for a reason!! I’m sure that if one door did close is because a wider and better one will open in the future and your time in that path was done already! I’m glad you had a great response from people and are more motivated. It is important to compare yourself sometimes, but only to yourself and not someone else. You can only be better than you were yesterday and that should be enough!! you are on the right path!! Good job!!! And don’t be anxious, the best is still to come now that you are open for new opportunities 🙂

    ~ xo Sheree
    Posh Classy Mom

  • I always love when someone shares their heart and their struggle. First, I am SO sorry you lost your job and it’s totally okay to be crushed in that! When it comes to social media, in general, it’s usually not real. Even the likes and followers in some cases. I mean, I’ve been doing secret giveaways to boost my following so to the outside eye it can look like I’m growing by 3000 a day naturally. I think it’s also important for all of us to remember that some people have entire teams dedicated to their brand, feed look, and advertising. It’s funny that even knowing that in this industry everything can be staged or bought we still fall trap to the lies of the comparison game. I’ve been contemplating quitting for that reason. I’m over devoting so much of my energy into a false perception. I commend you for keeping on keeping on! The support and friends I’ve made have honestly been the only thing that’s stopped me and I see you definitely understand that too! Taking time away is always so eye-opening and reviving .

    Manda | http://EvocativelyChosen.com

  • You are definitely not alone, I lost my job yesterday lol.
    I used to work for that company for 2 years,
    I was very disappointed first but then I decided that something better will happen.
    So, I wish you all the best with your career development. You seem to be very intelligent and will find your way very easily.

    xoxo
    Darya

  • Sorry to hear that you lost your job. You will get something better for sure . You are so brave and honest to open your thoughts and feeling to us during your lowest moment in life. I think it’s wonderful you wrote this post as many of us feel the same way. Stay strong be honest you will win…
    Love
    Sirin

  • It’s so easy to get caught up in the social media world that we forget that in reality that we all have pretty great lives and when we start comparing ourselves to others who spend hours curating the “perfect” lifestyle and impression of their lifestyle that it starts to get toxic!

    Also sorry that you lost your job babe – just try to stay positive and a better opportunity will come your way! xxx

    Helen x

  • Aww, babe, I’m so sorry to hear that. I had the same struggle when I started my blog and YT channel over three years ago. We all have our ups and downs, and this is a part of our life, I think. I’ve always enjoyed reading your posts, so please keep it up! Btw, I’m head over heels for this lovely blush pink jumper!

    Cheers, Eliza | http://www.fashion-confession.com

  • Social media can definitely affect your mood, in good ways and in bad. Sometimes I tend to stay on there way too long and constantly obsess about how much better I can be, instead of focusing on myself and what I am already. I can say though, I definitely have more friends on social media than I do in real life. Praying for you also. So sorry about the job loss, but believe me, God has something just for you, as He does for everyone 🙂

    http://www.thebeautybeau.com

  • Girl, you are not the only one who worries and stresses over this algorithm game, and the fear of not relating to your audience. But, you posting this topic, and being so upfront and person just goes to show that you have what it takes. People know when the person behind the screen is real, and you so so have that. Very happy to hear that you didn’t let the negative thoughts hold you back. It’s all about the journey, and they are always say the rougher the road, all the more beautiful the destination seems!

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